We drop hints and put reminders on the fridge door and leave post-its on the bedroom mirrors for weeks in advance as we count down to Valentine’s Day, because the hopeless romantics that some women are, we want our partner to feel the same rush of emotion that we do.
However, ladies quit watching all those sappy Hallmark movies and give the men a break. They do not and will not be as enamoured as we are about a pagan holiday that requires them to spend on a gift six weeks after buying a gift for Christmas.
They are not wired that way. Yes, you do have the occasional thoughtful and considerate beau thing that will plan weeks in advance to knock your socks off with something totally out of the box but those men are like unicorns.
Most men will wait until the last minute or the day before and either scramble to get you a generic gift or just settle for a gift voucher. Be happy they remembered.
“What they care about is seeing their partner happy, excited and feeling loved.”
It is not stereotyping, being sexist or heaven forbid male-bashing. It is what it is. Most men are just not gung ho or excited about Valentine’s Day. What they will acknowledge though, is that they understand that it means more to their wives or girlfriends so they will try to make it special for their sake.
They will try for her and that is good because they love and care about how SHE feels. What they care about is seeing their partner happy, excited and feeling loved.
“If a man can only make his woman feel appreciated one day out of 365, he is indeed even sadder.”
If you think about it, you cannot really blame some men for being dismissive of the day, because on the surface, if the only time you are expected to show love and affection is one single day – because merchandisers and some old story say so, it is indeed sad.
If a man can only make his woman feel appreciated one day out of 365, he is indeed even sadder. It should not take a bunch of flowers, chocolate or a teddy bear on February 14 for your woman to hear that she means the world to you.
If love is a constant flame, it doesn’t burn any brighter on that date. It should be a steady, roaring fire that sparks and crackles yet constantly ebbs and flows to keep the cockles of your heart warm always.
In all fairness ladies, sometimes we get very caught up and self-centred and think everything is about us. We love to receive but pay very little time and effort on reciprocating.
Valentine’ Day is not just for women. Do not make it so one-sided that men do things out of obligation more than out of the sheer joy of seeing your eyes light up. In other words, you need to give as good as you get.